12 Healthy Reasons to Have Sex Tonight

Candles lit? Check. Barry White on deck? Oh yeah. Dark chocolate-covered strawberries and a glass of wine? Pouring now.  Last…Alexa, dim the lights. We all knows what comes next. But do you know the many health benefits that accompany a vibrant sex life? Hold on to your hat, these facts are mind-blowing. Once you know how intimacy enhances your longterm health, sex becomes even more pleasurable. Let us take you on a tour through the multitude of benefits sex provides for your health: physical, mental, emotional, and psychological.

12 Health Benefits of Sex

Aside from the obvious – reproduction, pleasure, and intimacy – sexual activity elevates your quality of life in a great number of ways. Sex promotes cardiovascular health, sharpens cognitive performance, extends your healthspan, boosts your mood, and beyond. So, what are you waiting for? Here are 12 healthy reason to have sex…tonight!

 

1. Strengthens your immune system

That’s right. People who have more sex get sick less often. Studies show a direct correlation between sexual activity and higher levels of immunoglobulin A – an antibody that fights the common cold and infections. Researchers found that university students who engaged in sexual activity twice per week possessed high levels of immunoglobulin A. By contrast, levels were lowest among couples who had no sex at all. Sexual frequency factors largely in our overall health. So, if you’re not coupling up a couple of times per week, get busy. The more time you spend in the bedroom, the less time you’ll spend in the examining room.

2. Improves mental health

If you’re feeling a little off but can’t quite put your finger on it, try to remember the last time you were intimate. People with lively sex lives report higher self-esteem and general wellbeing. Hooking-up decreases overall psychological stress as it reduces cortisol, the stress hormone, and releases oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone.” Both chemicals benefit out overall mental health. For women, contacting semen during intercourse even acts as an antidepressant. One psychologist recently hypothesized that the post-coital calming effect may be attributed to oxytocin. Orgasms trigger the release of endorphins, which are your body’s feel-good chemicals. So, not only do you want greater sexual frequency – you want to have great sex.

3. Sex boosts brainpower

Having a hard time remembering names or finding your glasses? Might be time for a tumble. Research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior suggests that frequent sex may improve women’s memory. Sexual activity likely sharpens memory by stimulating new neuron production in the hippocampus – the region of the brain involved in learning and memory. In addition, sex may also enhance cognition. A University of Amsterdam study found that sexual encounters improve our analytical thinking. This boon applies to both men and women. Since fooling around makes you smarter…don’t be a dummy, have more of it.

Whether you’re a man or a woman, make up your mind to make love more often.

 4. Sex works out your body

Yes, sex counts as exercise. Physical activities that get your heart pumping are good for your health, and this includes sex. Depending on how, um actively, you’re going at it, a half hour of sex can burn close to 150 calories. Plus, you’ll make up for a handful of those chocolate-covered strawberries. By the way, the reverse is also true: vigorous exercise also boosts sexual performance. Working out works in your favor. Exercise boosts desire, arousal, satisfaction, and self-confidence. Challenge your love to a race to the bedroom. Last one to bed does the heavy-lifting.

5. Reduces pain

Headaches are often used as a reason to avoid intimacy. But, a cure may be right under your nose. During sex, your body releases serotonin, endorphins, and phenylethylamine. These hormones generate intense feelings of pleasure while at the same time killing pain. This chemical surge is likely the explanation for studies showing that intercourse can stop migraines. Before you reach for the painkillers, try reaching for your bedmate instead. Research suggests that sexual activity may reduce pain from migraine or cluster headaches. Among migraine sufferers, 60% reported a reduction in pain after sexual activity, while 37% of those with a cluster headache saw improvement. I’ve got a headache is no longer a valid excuse, but rather an invitation.

6. Sex deepens relationships

It’s called making love for a reason. Lovemaking plays a fundamental role in preserving happy relationships. Remember the “cuddle hormone”? Oxytocin makes you want to snuggle up to your partner after sex. For women, it helps them bond, trust, and also feel more generous towards their partners. And that “afterglow” we’ve heard so much about? For couples, this positive vibe lasts for up to 48 hours following sexual intercourse. This glow is associated with higher levels of long-term relationship satisfaction. Physical intimacy helps couples reduce stress and feel more secure, leading to more emotionally stable relationships. Turns out that the more love you make, the better you make your partner feel about your pairing.

Sexy couples are more secure, self-confident, and feel more deeply about their partner. So, couple up every chance you get.

7. Helps you sleep better

Does it seem like you’re always chasing a good night’s sleep? Maybe you just need to sleep around. Following an orgasm, and even during sex, the brain releases hormones including norepinephrine, serotonin, oxytocin, and vasopressin. All of these hormones can help you sleep. In women, a rise in estrogen levels during sex enhances their REM cycle, which means more restorative sleep. Men are especially likely to succumb to the sleep-inducing effects of sex because the prefrontal cortex slows significantly in males after orgasm. This happens to be the part of the brain responsible for interpreting and responding to new information. So, if your man falls asleep when you’d rather snuggle, don’t be insulted.

8. Makes you look younger

Tired of going broke on skincare products? Research shows sex is more potent than any anti-aging cream. Couples who have intercourse three or more times weekly appear, on average, ten years younger than their chronological age. Yes, you read that right: ten YEARS. Orgasms trigger the release of estrogen in both men and women, which improves hair and skin quality, making people look more attractive, too. That fabled “morning after” glow? It’s not just your imagination. You really do look amazing after having sex. This glow is the result of a combination of factors: stress relief, better mood, and the flush of blood under your skin that’s a natural part of the arousal process. So, skip the makeup counter and head straight to the bedroom.

9. Sex extends longevity

Sexual activity may hold the key to a longer life. A 25-year study determined that, in men, frequent intercourse was a significant predictor of longevity. Among women, those who reported enjoying sex lived longer. Another recent  study determined that sexual activity may have a protective effect on men’s healthspan. Researchers tracked the mortality of almost 1,000 men aged between 45 and 59 over the course of 10 years. They found that risk of death was 50 percent lower in men who frequently had orgasms than men who did not ejaculate. For women, it’s quality over quantity. High quality sex seems to protect women in later life. Aim for longevity in the bedroom to extend longevity as you age.

Your heart loves sex. Improve your heart health and extend longevity when you show your partner some love.

10. Your heart loves sex

Sexual arousal increases heart rate, with the number of beats per minute peaking during orgasm. Men who have regular sex are 50 percent less likely to develop heart diseaseEvidence suggests that men with better overall health have higher drives and therefore more sex overall, which creates a positive feedback loop that further builds a healthy cardiovascular system. Interestingly, results from most studies suggest that high frequency of sex is correlated with later onset of cardiovascular events for men. For women, better quality of sex is more cardio-protective. Both men and women should follow their hearts when it leads them to the bedroom. Get it pumping. Your heart will love you for it.

 

11. Lowers blood pressure

High blood pressure stresses out your blood vessels, leading to damage and narrow, hardened arteries. These same dangers to your cardiovascular system can also cause erectile dysfunction in men and reduced arousal and inability to orgasm in women. Reseach published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that sex in later years might reduce the risk of high blood pressure – at least for women. In men, studies have shown a link between low testosterone and high blood pressure, while the spikes in testosterone associated with sexual activity might help lower blood pressure. Testosterone stokes sexual desire – for both men and women. If you’re suffering from low libido, bioidentical hormone pellet therapy could be a solution.  Have more sexy time and surprise your cardiologist on your next visit when he checks your vitals.

For those suffering from erectile dysfunction who are looking for a natural solution, you can learn more here.

12. Lowers prostate cancer risk

Research shows that men who frequently ejaculate could be protected against prostate cancer, the most common cancer among men in the United States. Research from the National Cancer Institute in Bethesda, MD, and published in JAMA, discovered that men who ejaculated 21 times per month or more were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer than men who ejaculated between four and seven times per month. Some studies suggest sex “flushes out” any carcinogens in the prostate gland. On the flip side, a recent study showed that very frequent sexual activity in young men (20s and early 30s) could actually increase the risk of developing prostate cancer. But frequent ejaculation in middle-aged or older (50+) men decreased disease risk. For Boomers, this is good news. Keep getting it on like you’ve always done. Not in mood, guys? Get into it and start getting busy.

The takeaway?

Sex is an important part of life and overall well-being. In relationships, orgasms play a significant part in bonding. Physical and emotional benefits like reduced risk of heart disease, improved self-esteem, enhanced mental health and more are correlated with and lively and loving sex life. Not only can lovemaking be a pleasurable and exciting activity, sex may make you live longer.

Cue the Barry White…You just got in the mood.

 

How Money, Media, and Mental Health are Making Millennial Life Less Sexy

More than fifty years after the sexual revolution, sex in America is in a free fall – especially among young adults who historically have the most sex. The children of baby boomers – who revolutionized American sexuality during the 1960s – engage in far less sex than their parents. Millennials not only do it less but they lose their virginity later than their parents and Generation X. The share of Americans saying they’ve had no sex in the past year is rising. Perhaps most surprising, young adults top this list.

Some have called these trends a “sexual counter-revolution”.They contend that, during the sixties, we saw a freeing up of attitudes towards sex. Whereas flower children pushed back at boundaries, millennials almost crave them. Now, sexual fear has replaced sexual freedom. Children have always rebelled against their parents. But, typically, they do so by upping the stakes. Today, young people are countering the freedom of boomers with a new more puritanical approach to sex.

Casualties of the “sexual counter-revolution”

Many factors are at play in the decline in sexual behavior among millennials – from social media to social anxiety. I recently attended an Anti-Aging Academy of America (A4M) conference. I was shocked to learn that 33% of millennials are infertile. This figure applies to both young men and women. And the consequences are dire. I see some sociological and health ramifications that are as clear as day:

  • less and later marriage – later marriage means greater difficulty conceiving
  • plummeting birth rates – in the U.S., lower than they’ve been in 30 years
  • libidos on the slide – largely the result of the hypothyroid epidemic
  • difficult pregnancies and more miscarriages – older parents encounter more challenges conceiving
  • lower testosterone which leads to lower sperm count. For solutions for low testosterone, read more here.
  • erectile dysfunction – yes, even among millennial males, 25% experience intermittent ED. To learn how we can treat ED, go here.
  • more mental health issues – anti-depressant and anti-anxiety prescriptions remain at an all-time high

So, the whole “Netflix and chill” thing?

Both young adult men and women struggle with these new sexual health challenges. So, all that talk you hear about “Netflix and chilling”? It may be just that – talk. In real life, millennials are binge-watching more and more and, um, “chilling” less and less.

But it’s not all doom and gloom. Less sex has lead to much positive social change – from fewer unplanned pregnancies to broadening the public discourse. Millennials have pushed issues of consent, sexual harassment, and rape to the forefront. Never before have we seen such unprecedented acceptance of LGBTQ community.  

Wait. What? Millennials aren’t hooking up like mad?

Yep. You read that right. Despite the buzz about “hookup culture,” from 2004-2012, young adults did the deed no more than their counterparts from 1988-1996. They were, however, less likely to be in steady relationships with their sexual partners. According to the General Social Survey, some 18- to 30-year-olds don’t do it at all. Time magazine puts the figure at one in three 20-somethings who have never had sex at all. Rather than sleeping around, many millennials focus on getting ahead.

No sex at all? What gives?

Explanations for this phenomenon abound – experts blame everything, including:

  • more time spent on smartphones and other devices
  • the millennial trend of living with their parents
  • anxiety about the future and anxiety in general
  • fear of missing out (FOMO) magnified by social media

While millennials may not be doing it in record numbers, they do their Sex Ed homework online.

The possibility that millennial conceptions of what constitutes “having sex” may skew the results. Anecdotally, in my practice, I’ve seen a rise in oral sex – especially among young adult patients. Even so, these numbers indicate an undeniable cooling off of sexual conduct.

Are millennials the most cautious generation?

If boomers are the sexiest generation, millennials are the most cautious by a landslide. Helicopter parents raised their millennial children to be risk-averse. From birth, they wore helmets and fastened seatbelts. But, risk-taking plays a major part in sexual experimentation. With unprecedented access to information about sex via the internet, millennials could easily learn about pregnancy risks and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Such access made an already anxious and serious generation more so. No generation before possessed so much awareness about sexuality and so little real-life experience.

Millennials grew up in the shadow of HIV and informed about STDs. When boomers had their day in the sun, such fears were nonexistent. Free love really felt freeing. Not for millennials, who use condoms more than boomers ever did. I see this positive pattern in my practice, as well.

Risk-averse over risky business

The millennial generation may view their parents’ comparatively fast and loose behavior as a cautionary tale. One they then apply when making their own life choices. These cautious millennials not only have less sexual partners than boomers. They also limit all sorts of risky behaviors:

  • millennials drink less – what once a rite of passage, they now consider reckless
  • they smoke less – the popularity of vaping may change this
  • teenage pregnancy rates have dipped dramatically – and condom use is up
  • they commit less crimes – 20 years ago, people committed double the number of crimes

Money and marriage: Are millennials choosing salaries over sex?

Some posit that sharing a roof with their parents accounts for the nosedive in sex among millennials. For the first time in over a century, more young adults live at home with parents than with a spouse or partner. Married people have greater access to sex than single people. Indeed, marrieds engage in more sex, more often. Since millennials tend to marry later, a decrease in sexual participation makes sense.

Studies show that, globally, millennials log some serious hours. Many are virtually married to their careers. So much so that they work crazy hours for job security and moving up the corporate ladder. The emphasis on preparing first for college and now for careers came at a cost. Many millennials simply missed out on romantic relationships and age-appropriate sexual experimentation. Just the behaviors that typically lead to marriage.

Millennials have an historically low marriage rate. And, obviously, since married people are less likely to be virgins than the non-married, it follows that a decline in marriage means an increase in virginity.

Monetary factors in declining marriage rates:

  • More and more women enroll in college and join the workforce before having children or getting married. The average age of first marriage for females in the U.S. has climbed to 27. Up from 23 in 1990, according to Pew statistics.
  • Millennial males remain less likely to hold down a job than the generation before them. However, women their age work at higher rates.
  • Student loan debt is through the roof, hitting the $1 trillion mark six years ago. Many millennials can barely keep their heads above water.
  • Some millennials may simply be more selective than past generations. Selectivity is not necessarily a bad thing. With increased economic participation, women play a more active part in the mate selection process than in the past.
  • Their baby boomer parents enjoyed free love but also suffered high divorce rates. Divorce is rarely cheap and often the result of financial friction.

Postponing marriage until you’ve got serious bank sounds smart. But it may impact your ability to conceive.

Making relationships work involves many facets – and money plays a fundamental part. However, putting off marriage until you get your financial house in order may impact your chance of conceiving. Later marriage correlates directly to women having babies later in life. Among those experiencing difficulty conceiving – and this number is higher than you think – many look into fertility treatments later, too.

Screen time vs. sexy time: New media and sexuality

Millennials grew up with new media pervading every aspect of their lives. The proliferation of smartphones and increased screen time undermine the development of non-virtual relationships. Today, we are witnessing a sexual disconnect not seen in prior generations. New technology encourages millennials to devote time to social media, video games, pornography and other virtual distractions. And spend less time with their human peers in person. Less flesh-and-blood encounters mean less sex.

Social media also contributes to the decline in sexual intimacy among millennials. According to the Pew Research Institute, 88% of 18- to 29-year-olds scroll away their days on social media. A majority report visiting Instagram every day. And 38% report visiting the app multiple times per day. Simply getting a “like” of one’s social media postings triggers a dopamine bump. This bump simulates an addiction cycle similar to drugs.

During their spare time, many millennials are choosing their screens over sex and selecting their devices over dating.

More media, more problems

Social media also takes a toll on millennials’ self-esteem. Seeing peers portrayed with flawless bodies, accomplishing enviable milestones, and advertising “perfect” love lives, amplifies feelings of insecurity. Social media rewards such displays with digital applause. While the less secure online spiral toward mental health issues, body dysmorphic disorders, and social isolation.

Those in previous generations found their stimulation face-to-face. Millennials continually immersed in an electronic world experience no human contact of any kind. A recent study found that, contrary to popular belief, older populations aren’t at the highest risk of feeling lonely. In fact, loneliness peaks among teenagers and young adults. Social isolation often dovetails with low self-esteem, particularly among young adults.

Dating apps and sexual appetites

Meanwhile, finding sex outside of relationships has never been easier. Dating apps allow singles to hookup with multiple partners – in shifts throughout the day, if they desire. With the help of smartphones, partnered-up people can keep illicit liaisons secret from their partners in ways not imaginable before. Extramarital sex is more widely accepted among millennials than any age group. In a recent study, compared to older generations, millennials reported the lowest disapproval of infidelity at 75 percent.

For millennial singles, online dating leaves much to be desired as well. Researcher Jean Twenge, a millennials-expert tells the Washington Post that the prominence of online dating contributes dramatically to their slumping rates of sexual activity. Twenge points the finger at dating apps’ emphasis on physical appearance which “leaves out a large section of the population.” This superficial component leaves many feeling left out and less likely to risk the emotional damage that comes with rejection. Many millennials would rather be safe and solo than suffer the consequences of “catching feelings.”

Many single millennials would rather be safe and solo than risk rejection or the possibility of “catching feelings.”

Porn and performance. Yes, they’re related.

Pornography is pervasive. No doubt about it. And its consumption is on the rise, especially among millennial males. But female viewers are picking up steam. Recent research team looked at shifting attitudes and behaviors surrounding porn from 1973 to 2012. The findings, published in the Journal of Sex Research, confirm porn viewership is escalating among young adults. Popular adult site, Pornhub, saw its viewership grow from 10 million daily visits in 2009 to 25 million in 2012. In 2017, 75 million viewers got their kicks on the site. A significant leap by any standards.

Increased pornography consumption represents a serious factor in declining millennial sexual behavior. Young men particularly dedicate a significant amount of screen time to virtual sex rather than the real thing. Twenge accounts for such devotion to porn like this: “Why risk rejection, sexually transmitted diseases, relationship arguments or having to meet up with someone when you can watch porn in the privacy of your own bedroom and do things your way?” I’ve got more on the increase in “self-love,” below. Keep reading for that.

How does porn affect sexual performance?

Excessive porn viewing affects more than the mental wellbeing of millennials – it also affects physical performance. Sexual perfectionism represents an emerging problem. One firmly rooted in watching porn. Young men and women expect real-world sex to be seamless…just like it appears to be in the porn they’ve watched since they were teens. In reality, sex is messy and unpredictable. Sexual perfectionism can lead to all types of sexual dysfunction in men and in women. Serious issues like from the inability to orgasm to erectile dysfunction.

I’m not in the mood: Millennial sexuality and mental health

It’s not hard to imagine how the challenges of 21st-century life would spawn an epidemic of anxiety among this generation. A survey published earlier this year by the American Psychiatry Association found that millennials are by far the most anxious generation. Women tend to be more anxious than men, and people of color scored 11 points higher on the anxiety scale than Caucasians. Millennials are reporting these and other mental health conditions at higher rates than any generation before. Such awareness may not necessarily mean that they are suffering any more than their previous generations. However, they are considerably more vocal – and less judgmental – when it comes to mental health.

For the “anxious generation,” life in a digital world is complicated and many millennials feel overwhelmed. Constantly. All of the benefits of technology come at a toll. Higher educational demands and pressure to earn hefty incomes also lead to an inflated quest for perfection. Because they spend so much time online, millennials cannot resist the urge to compare their personal and professional achievements to everyone else’s. This practice leads to low self-esteem, insecurity, and a host of other unhealthy mental habits.

Is sexual perfectionism a thing?

Specifically, a dramatic increase in perfectionism – even when it comes to sex. Perfectionism often manifests as a fear of failure – or not performing constantly at your best. Fear of failure in the bedroom is very real. I talked about sexual perfectionism above and I hear these concerns from my patients almost daily. Taking pharmaceuticals is not always the solution and, in some instances, may even compound problems.

One in six Americans are on antidepressants, and the rate is even higher among millennials. Many medications used to treat anxiety and depression decrease libido and sexual activity.

If that’s not depressing, I don’t know what is. For those of us in the medical profession, now is the time to start having different conversations with our patients.

Millennials are doing their Sex Ed homework

Millennials may not be hitting the sheets en masse. They are, nevertheless, highly informed about sexuality. Since most millennials grew up with easy internet access, the way they learned about sex differs vastly from past generations. Whereas boomers had their first intimate encounter with a Playboy magazine, many millennials found early thrills online.

Sure, both generations likely heard some version of “the talk” from their parents. However, millennials could consult Google for any follow-up questions rather than press their parents for embarrassing details. Millennials are also a more open and less judgmental group. They came of age with important issues like LGBTQ rights, consent, and sex positivity as part of the national conversation.

Self-love is the ultimate in safe sex. And the most “cautious generation” is practicing more than most.

Self-love is de-stigmatized

And “self-love” is broadly accepted. The stigma surrounding masturbation has never been less pronounced. Across all generations, millennials masturbate the most often. A recent study comparing the “self-love” practices between the generations found:

  • Millennials masturbate an average of 18 times per month
  • Gen Xers get after it about 13 times per month
  • Boomers loosen their own belts about 7 times monthly

Most millennials openly discuss masturbation and routinely enlist the help of sex toys. Some even identify as “solosexual,” meaning that they engage exclusively in solo sex rather than sex with partners.

Say what you will about the millennials but at least the “cautious generation” is practicing safe sex. And lots of it.

The Sexy Sixties: Boomers and the Second Sexual Revolution

Nearly 80 million Americans came of age during the social and sexual revolution of 1960s and ’70s. The era was characterized by rebellion against parents, society, and conformity in general. About a third of this free-loving generation are now single — either divorced, widowed, or never married to begin with. While many baby boomers are now parents of the decidedly less sexy millennials , their interest in sex shows no sign of slowing down. The dating app Match.com cites 50-plus as the fastest-growing demographic on the site. And a survey from OurTime.com, an online dating site for older adults, found that looks still matter. Approximately 87% of 50- to 70-year-old users point to physical attraction as a deciding factor when sizing up a potential partner.

How do boomers stack up?

Recent research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, reports that the average American adult has sex about 60 times per year. So, we’re getting it on a little more than once a week. For the 2015 and 2016 studies, researchers analyzed polled data on adult sexual habits from the General Social Survey. Who’s having the most? Compared to subsequent generations, boomers have the most sexual partners over their lifetime. Boomers average 11 partners – compared with millennials who have a projected average of 8. And Generation X comes in second with an average of 10 partners. I see patients every day confirming that boomers are trending up. Surprisingly, younger generations are trending down in terms of sexual interest.

The boomers, who launched the sexual revolution in the ’60s, are now well into their 60s. For them, the revolution rages on.

Which is the sexiest generation of them all?

Hands down this distinction belongs to boomers, who continue to push sexual boundaries. The same generation of women who first benefited from the introduction of the birth control pill in 1965 now crave fresh solutions to keep enjoying sex. A movement is afoot – one that challenges long-held assumptions about aging and sexuality. Adults in their 60s and beyond deserve and demand healthy, happy sex lives.

The FDA approved Viagra in 1998 to treat erectile dysfunction, transforming the sexual landscape for older men. This pharmaceutical added years to their sexual health. Urologists for men were dedicated to their sexual health. They proactively sought out solutions to maintain male vitality. Meanwhile, for decades, women with age-related sexual concerns were left high and dry. They found few options and even fewer physicians who would listen. My female patients have been tragically underserved by conventional medicine. However, the emergence of laser medicine marks the start of a new era. I now offer my female patients new science-backed solutions for all their sexual health needs.

Unlike their Viagra-popping partners, boomer women have been left high and dry…I’m thrilled for you, honey. Really.

Boomer women demand solutions for sexual wellness

Not only did gynecologists fail to rise to the occasion for female patients. The findings of the 2005 Women’s Health Initiative (WHI) set women’s health back irreparably. The false conclusion that Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) was unsafe for women still informs many physicians and patients alike. Daily, I see the repercussions of this inaccuracy negatively affect the lives of my patients. I have treated women for over 25 years and am astonished by the myths patients believe. But more so, by how misinformed many of my colleagues remain about bio-identical HRT. We cannot realistically achieve longevity without balanced hormones. Testosterone therapy plays a fundamental part in preserving women’s libido and sexuality. Furthermore, HRT maintains bone and brain health, prevents Type 2 diabetes, heart disease, and even breast cancer. Yes, I said testosterone therapy prevents breast cancer in women.

What do boomer women want?

One of the first line treatments I recommend to my boomer women is hormone replacement with BioTE pellet therapy. Once their libido returns, women cannot wait to reclaim their sexuality. Each woman suffers from a unique combination of the many common sexual problems that accompany aging. Things like structural changes resulting from childbirth, incontinence, vaginal laxity and dryness. Add inability to orgasm, pain during intercourse, embarrassing hemorrhoids, and concerns over the appearance of their genitalia. You see, boomer women want to keep having sex and look sexy while they do it. Women over 60 represent an enormous market opportunity. The industry has finally taken notice. Over the past decade, explosive technology – especially in laser devices – has emerged to serve the diversity of women’s sexuality.

Benefits of the bedroom

Of course, making love makes for lots of fun. During arousal, the brain releases powerful “feel-good” chemicals. But, sex also imparts many positive physiological and emotional benefits so it plays a major role in our overall health. People who have more sex report higher self-esteem, life satisfaction, and quality of life. They make better parents and happier employees. Other benefits of spending more time in the bedroom include:

  • boosts your immunity
  • regulates blood pressure
  • reduces stress and improves mood
  • improves sleep 
  • increased longevity

People with healthy sex lives possess greater confidence in and out of the bedroom. But, for boomers, the pros of more sex come with new responsibilities and consequences.

Doctors don’t talk to patients about sexual health. Here’s why they should:

More often than not, healthcare professionals don’t ask about their patients’ intimate lives. This is especially true for older individuals. Physicians may have preconceived notions that they are not sexually active. They could not be more wrong. Sexuality should be part of a physician’s review of systems – no matter what a patient’s age. Intimacy should be an essential component of the patient-doctor conversation. I ask all of my patients about their sexual health. Questions like:

Are you with a new partner? Perhaps more than one? Are you using protection? Would you like an STD screening? Are you satisfied with your performance and do you achieve orgasm? And, equally important, are you satisfied with your partner’s performance?

Boomers are used to giving “the talk” to their children. Many need to learn to take their own advice.

Why should boomers talk about sex now?

With the increase in older people dating, high numbers of boomers report having unprotected sex. As a result, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are skyrocketing among older people. In a report by Global News about sexually active seniors, they shared these alarming statistics:

Recent studies have shown that in the U.S. STDs in the 50 to 70 age group have increased 38 percent from 2014 to 2017…. People over 50 years old made up 21 percent of new HIV diagnoses.

So, why is this happening? Well, it’s multi-factorial. Boomers don’t use protection for a broad range of reasons.

  • No longer a fear of pregnancy – when boomers started having sex, pregnancy was likely the primary issue they considered. Now that this no longer concerns them, older people do not realize the necessity of protection.
  • Unaware of symptoms – many STIs may be present without any visible symptoms. Someone can be infected and not even know it. 
  • Not in the habit – many older people had previous longterm relationships where protection was not necessary. Boomers carry these same assumptions from prior relationships into new sexual encounters without considering the consequences.

Why does sex lose its luster as we age?

As we grow older, both women and men experience a drop in vital sex hormones. A drop in sexual desire and performance typically follows. To make matters worse, as our hormone levels decline, we experience a whole host of unwanted conditions. We have trouble maintaining our weight, difficulty sleeping at night, and decreased muscle strength. Beyond that, many older people suffer from low energy and fatigue. It’s no wonder that many lose interest in sex as we age. HRT is the cornerstone of my sexual wellness philosophy. The topic is so critical, I dedicated a microsite to this potent tool for longevity. You can learn more about hormone pellet therapy here.

Sexual avoidance is a thing too

For many boomers, not having sex – even avoiding it altogether – is also not uncommon. Some of the reasons are physical but, oftentimes, they are physiological or psychosocial. Boomers represent one of the most stressed-out demographics today. Most still work full time. Many also care for aging parents and, increasingly, help financially support their adult children. Changing bodies and changing priorities add additional stumbling blocks for boomers in their ongoing pursuit of love. Some simply don’t have the time, or emotional headspace, for romance. For others, the cause could be medical.

Historically in old age, people tend to have less sex. Many older people lose their partners and don’t necessarily start dating again. Poor health or taking certain medications can also make people less interested in sex. However, boomers are bucking the trend. While some boomers are not actively seeking sex, others actively avoid it. Women more commonly avoid sex than men. In fact, up to 40% of women avoid sex some time in their lives. However men, too, have motivations for opting out of sex.

Some of the reasons boomers refrain:

  • Pain during sex, for women
  • Incontinence and the embarrassment that comes with it – 80% of women experience incontinence during their lifetime.
  • Low libido, among women and men
  • Inability to orgasm – 10% of women never climax
  • Metabolic conditions like diabetes and obesity
  • Many medications such as antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs reduce libido
  • Low levels of testosterone for men – men lose 20% of their testosterone per decade
  • Dissatisfaction with their partner
  • Erectile dysfunction for men – 60% of men over 60 experience ED
  • Lack of opportunity is cited by men

Fortunately, we now have an abundance of solutions for many of these concerns. The second sexual revolution for Boomers could not have come at a better time.

Laser Love: New science so you stay sexy

A number of revolutionary and noninvasive treatments are currently available to correct issues that get in the way of intimacy. You just have to know where to look. At HealthWellnessMD, we offer an array of non-surgical solutions for your most intimate concerns. We perform these procedures in the comfort and privacy of our medical spa with little to no downtime.

  • Vaginal Rejuvenation with the FemiLift

The FemiLift is for every woman. Every woman who suffers from incontinence, every woman who wants less discomfort during sex and greater sensation, every woman of every age who wants to feel rejuvenated. This minimally invasive laser stimulates collagen production and increases blood flow to the vaginal walls. The FemiLift has the dual effect of both improving urinary leakage and increasing your sexual sensation, lubrication, and overall intimacy.

  • Internal and external Vaginal Rejuvenation with Votiva 

Votiva uses radio frequency (RF) to tighten pelvic muscles and treat the effects of vaginal laxity such as urinary incontinence and loss of sensitivity. This safe and comfortable treatment addresses both internal and external vaginal health issues without surgery. If you suffer from low blood flow or sensitivity, pain with intercourse, or decreased libido, Votiva may be perfect for you. Votiva can also address age-related loss of elasticity and wrinkled appearance of the labia and vulva.

  • Male performance enhancement with GAINSWave

Many men equate a healthy sex life with their ability to achieve a strong and long-lasting erection. They spend billions each year on temporary male enhancement treatments such as Viagra and Cialis despite the numerous and alarming side effects. Any man who wants to take back his sexuality naturally—without risky medication—can benefit from this gentle and pain-free therapy. The GAINSWave™system uses pulsating acoustic waves to increase blood flow to the penis resulting in a firmer, more resilient erection. Using acoustic waves increases the number of blood vessels, removes micro-plaques, and promotes soft tissue growth within the penis, so it stays firmer longer, while also increasing sensitivity. Greater blood flow means stronger erections and optimal sensation.

  • The O-Shot® for Women

The O-Shot®, or Orgasm- Shot, procedure is a very specific method of using blood-derived growth factors from your own platelet-rich plasma (PRP), to rejuvenate and regenerate the vagina. The O-Shot® helps relieve urinary incontinence, sexual problems, and increases sexual pleasure. For many patients, The O-Shot® improves lubrication and arousal from clitoral stimulation and may decrease pain for women who experience pain during intercourse.

  • The P-Shot® for Men

This groundbreaking new treatment uses platelet-rich plasma (PRP) from the patient’s own body to rejuvenate damaged and aged tissue. The P-Shot® entails safe, pain-free injections of a patient’s own PRP to rejuvenate the penis and stimulate new tissue growth, resulting in improved erections that are larger, firmer, and more frequent. Because the PRP comes from your own body, it is a natural and effective treatment for erectile dysfunction as well as Peyronie’s Disease. And because most men see almost instantaneous results, you can enjoy sexual relations on the day of the procedure.

  • Vaginal Revision with Laser Labiaplasty

Labiaplasty is the fastest-growing type of cosmetic surgery today. We offer a nonsurgical alternative for the many women who experience discomfort or limit activities, such as riding bikes or going to the beach, because of their pronounced labia. We can also help women who are embarrassed because they lack labial symmetry. I want all women to know that you can have perfectly symmetrical labia without going under the knife. After my in-office laser labiaplasty, you go home the same day, with little downtime, no stitches, and the symmetrical appearance you’ve always desired.

  • Hemorrhoids with Laser Hemorrhoid Removal 

Hemorrhoids are not only uncomfortable, they can be embarrassing and interfere with your desire for sexual intimacy. With the rise in oral sexual activity, this condition can be especially awkward. As many as 80% of American suffer from hemorrhoids and most are unaware of a simple and minimally invasive technique to eliminate them. Using our CO laser, we permanently remove external hemorrhoids. This laser vaporizes the content of the hemorrhoid as well as the remaining skin sack. So, you can enjoy your sexuality with confidence again.

Your sexual health and wellness is too important to ignore. With such advances in laser technology, there is no reason for boomers to lack confidence in the bedroom due to medical, performance, or cosmetic concerns. You can feel great about the way you look again – in and out of the bedroom.

Taking it to the sheets: The second Sexual Revolution

Boomers are once again challenging the status quo – this time, by upending assumptions about aging and sexuality. During the ‘6os, they were taking it to the streets. Now more than fifty years later, they are revolutionizing the way the medical establishment approaches sexuality and longevity. While there will never be another Summer of Love, with all of these solutions for sexual health, boomers can come pretty darn close. Future generations say thank you.

 

How I’ve Helped Thousands of Men Feel Like Tarzan Again with GAINSWave

If you’re anything like the typical 21st-century American male over 40, I’m guessing you haven’t felt the urge to swing from vine to vine like the “lord of the jungle” recently. When is the last time you dazzled your Jane-equivalent with your stamina and sexual prowess? Been awhile? Know that you’re not alone. Erectile dysfunction affects 18 million men in America. Clinical studies show that performance issues occur in 40% of men at age 40, 50% at 50, and nearly 70% at age 70. Intermittent performance issues are increasingly occurring in younger men, as well. In fact, up to 1 in 4 men under 25 experience sexual dysfunction.

What if I told you that I’ve helped thousands of men just like you feel like Tarzan again? All without pills, pumps, or side effects. It’s called the GAINSWave. If you are among the 52% of men who experience erectile dysfunction, then this treatment may provide a long-term solution. Even for men who consider themselves problem-free – but would still like a boost in the bedroom – the GAINSWave represents a safe and healthy alternative.

Who’s up for an elephant ride? With GAINSWave, you’re ready at all times.

Spontaneity gone?

Satisfying one’s lover is essential to a successful relationship. Part of that satisfaction means being ready when your partner is. Many men miss the sexual spontaneity of younger years. Erectile dysfunction makes performance unpredictable at best. I want you to know you don’t have to suffer in silence as these symptoms chip away at your desire for intimacy. There’s no reason to fear for the potential failure of your relationship. Furthermore, no matter what your age, you should know you can enjoy a healthy and active sex life again, or for the first time.

Have more sex to extend longevity

A vibrant sexuality is critical for your wellbeing and for longevity. The benefits of an active sex life are multifold. For starters, sex improves immune function and sleep quality. Men with healthy sex lives see a 50% reduction in heart attacks. So, embrace your inner Tarzan for a longer, more fulfilling life.

Many men equate a strong and long-lasting erection with their personal sexual health and wellness. Sometimes, however, external forces get in the way: stress, age, and lifestyle factors can interfere with intimacy. Certain medications may also be responsible for ED (even in younger men). Millions of men resort to temporary male enhancements from the drugstore or from healthcare providers. But quick fixes like the “little blue pill” make spontaneity difficult and risk a dangerous side effects.

Bio-hacking your inner Tarzan with GAINSWave

When my male patients first come to see me they are typically defeated. However, most are still hopeful that I can help. Each one of them asks me the same thing: Why is this happening to me? I explain that, as men age, the blood vessels in the penis collapse due to deterioration or plaque blockage. In the same manner that we develop heart disease from the formation of plaques, the penile artery also forms micro-plaques as a result of decreased blood flow. Adequate blood flow is essential for a strong and lasting erection–the greater the volume, the better.

Are there alternatives to the “little blue pill”?

We now have noninvasive technology for the improvement or possible resolution of much male sexual dysfunction. I approach the treatment of sexual health the same way that I treat all of my patients’ concerns. First, from the approach of Functional Medicine. This means I look for the root cause and tailor a treatment to your individual needs. So, first, we will address any physiological or emotional impediments to intimacy. Next, I evaluate your blood work for any vitamin or thyroid deficiencies. Now, thyroid testing is key for a number of reasons. Many men may not be aware that if their thyroid is not functioning properly, they will have low-T, or low testosterone.

If you’re concerned about your testosterone levels, make sure your physician runs a thorough thyroid function panel. This panel must assess your free T3 levels. This number is very important and very misunderstood by most conventional physicians. Your free T3 is your master hormone—it is the key that ignites every cell in your body. So, if you’ve got low testosterone, the first thing I want to look at are your free T3 levels. Once we’ve optimized your thyroid, your testosterone numbers will improve. Optimal testosterone improves sexual health and pleasure. Plus, you’ll feel and look better in your loincloth.

Me Tarzan. You Jane. Have would you like a tour of my treehouse?

A better way to boost your performance with the GAINSWave

I’ve helped literally thousands of men boost their performance using with the GAINSWave.  This noninvasive and pain-free treatment utilizes acoustic sound waves to restore and increase blood flow. The technology has been around for decades, but, has only recently been used to treat erectile dysfunction and enhance male sexual performance. I’ve been using the GAINSWave at my Dallas, Texas, clinic for almost 3 years. I’ll admit, at first I was a little dubious. But the results have proved me wrong. My patients are so thrilled with their outcomes, they are referring their friends for the Tarzan treatment.

How does the GAINSWave work?

The GAINSWave device generates acoustic waves. Acoustic sound waves encourage the growth of new blood vessels. We apply the GAINSWave directly to the penis with the aid of a sliding gel. Its pulsating waves increase blood flow to the penis, allowing a firmer, more resilient erection. This treatment also helps release stem cells and growth factors. Why does this matter? Because you’re rejuvenating the health of the entire pelvic floor.

Your penis stays firmer longer and you experience optimal sensation. Any man who wants to take back his sexuality naturally–and turn his back on erectile dysfunction meds for good–can benefit from the safe and healthy therapy.

Why wait until you have erectile dysfunction when you can it prevent now?

Many ED sufferers are searching for a treatment when a better approach is early prevention. Most men don’t realize that testosterone begins falling at the age of 30. The role of testosterone in achieving erection is key. Testosterone signals to the blood vessels in the penis that it’s time to engorge and engage. In order to perform at your peak sexually, all of the testosterone receptors in the pelvic floor must be saturated.

Passionate cyclists should know that all of that time in the saddle may cause longterm harm. Those precious blood vessels in the penis do not tolerate prolonged or chronic compression. For your overall sexual health and wellness, consider spending less time on the bike and more time in the bedroom.

There are at least 5 components that contribute to maintaining peak sexual performance:

  • Your head must be in the game
  • A functioning thyroid is mission critical
  • Testosterone levels must be optimized
  • Your blood vessels must be in great shape
  • A consistent exercise routine for enhanced libido and performance

Does the GAINSWave work for everyone with erectile dysfunction?

I’ve seen amazing benefits from the GAINSWave in my own patients. As many as 90% report marked improvement and enhanced performance. And, for the up to 23% of men between the ages of 40 and 70 who suffer form Peyronie’s disease, this treatment has proven highly successful. Of course, those with a severe degree of heart disease, diabetes, and advanced age may require more treatments and see milder change. Every man is different and requires individualized care. But, we typically recommend between 6 and 12 treatments and then a touch-up every year following.

Okay, perhaps you won’t have an occasion to swing from vines any time soon. But, with the GAINSWave, you may be tempted to swing from the bedroom chandeliers.

 

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